Common Courtesy

You know, in the 21st century, this day and age of "text me" communication it seems as if common courtesy has gone straight out the window. It's like no one knows how to hold a conversation anymore. How many times have you been talking to someone who (when the conversation was over) didn't even say goodbye to you? It seems like the way to say "goodbye" now is to simply flip your phone closed. End of conversation. It's the same when chatting online too it seems. Lately I have had way, way too many chats that just ended with me hanging in the breeze until I finally get the message that the person I am chatting with is no longer interested. Usually this is a person who looked me up to chat, not the other way around. Whatever happened to "well, I have to go now. We'll chat later ok"? I know a lot of people have two or three (or more!) chats going at once and they forget about one of them sooner or later. I think this behavior is rude. I never engage in more than one chat at a time for exactly that reason. In the scene, it seems to be all to common. Some guy will look me up and then make me play the "Waiting Game"; you know the one. Or they look you up to chat and then you have to do most of the conversing while they answer every message with "cool" (or worse "kewl"), "absolutely" or "LOL". You can't get any information from them and they looked you up to chat. What is wrong with this picture? Have we forgotten how to communicate, which is so important in the spanking scene? I personally hate what I call "text message English", where someone writes "How r u?" instead of taking the time to type "How are you?" We aren't in high school are we?
In my opinion anyone who writes like this during a chat or on a message board should receive twenty swats with my brand new paddle. Maybe it shows my bias, but I think it shows bad manners and poor English skills when someone writes this way in email or chat or what have you.
It's pretty much the reason I am the only person on the face of the earth who doesn't have a cell phone.
Well, I just had to get that off my chest. I'm sorry it's been so long since I blogged; I have had health issues that prevented me from doing so. I hope to get back in the swing and stop neglecting my poor blog from now on. Maybe I'm the one who needs twenty swats with my new paddle? :)

Cigi has left the building...
As always, play safe and play nice, kiddies!

Spanking On TV...I Wish

Are you like me and miss the "good ol' days" when spanking was seen on an at least semi-regular basis? I don't watch much network television I will admit to that, but it seems the "spanking reference" (as I call it) has made a comeback. I don't really like spanking threats but if that's all you're offered you take what you can get, right?

My favorite show the last few years has been "NCIS"; the show about the Naval Investigative Service. Not likely to have a spanking on that show, right? Well, a girl can dream can't she? I think there is at least one character that can be called "one of us". If you watch the show at all you know I'm talking about "the Goth chick"; Abby. The girl is kinky. Come on...she wears a collar (usually leather), short plaid or leather skirts, high heeled boots, sports tattoos and tops it all off with little girl pigtails or braids. If this girl isn't begging for a spanking, I don't know who is.

To my mind she is begging for someone to take her over their knee and give her that spanking she wants so desperately. But who? To me there is only one logical though politically incorrect choice: her boss, Agent Gibbs played by Mark Harmon. Girls, please...who wouldn't want to get spanked by this hunk and former People Magazine's Sexiest Man Alive winner? Doesn't matter if he isn't a spanko...as I said, a girl can dream, can't she?

For those who like that kind of thing (and it looks like Abby does), he is appropriately dominant, has a past with some of the women he has worked with and, most importantly, isn't above slapping the male agents in the back of the head. Abby wants that slap...just a little lower down in my opinion. I think Abby has a huge father figure thing for Gibbs and at times her behavior seems purposely irritating. We in the scene call that bratting. Oh how I wish Gibbs would accommodate the beautiful girl (who stands 5' 10" and has legs to die for) who obviously wouldn't mind being manhandled in this way.
I can think of all kinds of shows where the female lead could use a good spanking from the male lead. My other favorite TV shows are two "Law and Order" spin offs; "Criminal Intent" (which now features the hunky brainiac Jeff Goldblum) and "Special Victims Unit", which features Chris Maloni; another hunk who always appears with his sleeves rolled up and blue eyes blazing...ah, if only he would take the lovely Mariska Hargitay across his knee...I think a spanking scene between the two of them would be so incredibly hot.

Is it just me or did it get hot in here all of a sudden? You know, as they say, I may not know art but I know what I like. I don't think I'll ever see Abby get her wish but fantasies are so much fun...

Be sure to let me know who you think could use (or at least wants) a spanking on TV...

That's all for now...play nice and play safe, Kiddies!

Cigi has left the building. :)

Moving On...But Staying The Same

I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Why does it seem like all my scene friends are moving on and I feel like I've been left behind? I have tried a lot of things in the scene but I have always come back to spanking; my first true love. So why do I feel like I don't belong? Why do I feel like I don't fit in; even with other spankos? So many of the tops I have played with are now into other things besides spanking, they are exploring other things and that's fine. But they seem to have forgotten about their spanko friends. One top spanks so well but right now he seems to be more into other BDSM interests. A female switch friend (a dear, dear friend) announced she is no longer going to attend spanking parties, except the ones she organizes for her own group. I was so saddened to hear this.The thought of only see her twice a year (and that's if I can make both parties) makes me feel lost.

I know you can try other things and still remain a spanko. I did it. But I hope my friends who want to experiment with things other than spanking come back to it like I did and for the same reason; it's their true love.

Sorry this is so short but it's late and I have to get to bed now.

That's all for now. Play safe and play nice, Kiddies!

Cigi

Missing A Friend

We all know someone who left this life far too early and, usually, that loss is particularly hard to bear. Today, I got word that the past president of Crimson Moon passed away after suffering a heart attack. He was someone I didn't know that well, even after six years of attending parties and we only played a few times, but he was Crimson Moon for many, many years. He gave of himself and thought of everyone before himself. He was the "big brother" of every girl in the group.
When I attended my first party, he was the first person to introduce themselves to me. He invited me out to dinner with other group members and helped me feel less terrified. He did that with everyone. We had our moments over the years; our disagreements but you still couldn't deny his place in the spanking community and certainly not in Crimson Moon.
So, as we lay Vince to rest this week, I will remember only the good times and the fun he enabled me to have at countless parties.
I am too saddened and stunned to write more.
Rest in peace, Vince...may you find peace at last. I pray God will comfort your family and others of us who are grieving you tonight.
I'm sorry this is short...but I thought it was appropriate to keep it that way.
Have fun, play safe and spank someone in Vince's memory...hey, it's way he'd want it!
Cigi has left the building....

My Toy Obsession

It seems my mother was right. She always said I as a "collector" of things. I have so many collections in storage; stamps, Depression Glass, baseball cards, Avon bottles, etc. I get my tendency to be a pack rat from my late father, who could never throw anything away especially if it conjured up fond memories. It seems only natural that, once I got into the spanking scene, I would start to collect more things; such as videos but mostly spanking toys. When I first got active in the scene, I was strictly a bottom and my creed was "The Top provides the toys". Then I started hearing about some bottoms who were friends of mine who had started to purchase their own toys and it began to make sense. For the first several years I was at the mercy of whoever I was playing with and whatever toys they had and chose to use. It began to occur to me that I wasn't getting a lot of spanking with the toys I enjoyed most. So, after talking it over with Cheryl, we agreed to start buying some of our own toys. Well, to make a long story short, "some of our own toys" has become an almost unmanageable accumulation of spanking implements. And I have gone through phases believe me; the first was the cane phase.The result of that is about ten different canes that I love so much I always bring all of them with me to spanking parties. The second was the leather phase, where I got into leather spanking toys. I knew exactly where I wanted to shop for those as I had been salivating over them for a while and telling all the Tops I knew "buy your leather toys from this guy". Of course, I am talking about the London Tanner. I have quite a number of his toys and there are a few more I still have yet to get. Aren't they lovely? They are so well crafted and all handmade. I wish I could get them all!

The next phase was the wood paddle phase. This was the phase before this last one hit me. This happened only because I didn't have any in my collection and, as I was beginning to Top by this time, I thought I should probably get some in the toy bag. I liked to have them used on me too. I wanted only the best quality work, which is why I only purchase toys from three for four different toy makers. I believe in the quality of their work and am loyal to them. I did my usual research online and came across a wonderful gentleman in Texas who makes all kinds of exotic wood paddles. His toys are reasonably priced, too. It's where I got this wonderful paddle made out of purple heartwood. I will give you all the URL's of my favorite toy makers at the end of this post.

There are also a few more of his paddles I want. You can easily see how the collection can begin to be hard to manage. Well, as if that weren't enough, now I have this new phase: the fraternity paddle phase. I believe it's simply because my toy bag is without one and that's why I want one so badly. The collector in me can't be without one. I was at a Crimson Moon party last July and, of course, CM has a vendor fair every year at the summer party. There was a gentleman there with all sorts of fraternity paddles. I admit, at the time, that the thought of having one kind of appealed to me then. But the London Tanner had his usual beautiful table of wares and I had put aside money for the things I wanted. But I kept going back to the table with the fraternity paddles. The one I wanted was a bit out of my price range but it kept catching my eye and I kept going back to his table. Another Top snapped it up and it now resides proudly in his collection. I had lost my chance. But for me part of the fun is the chase; trying to locate just the toy I want. Most of the time that isn't difficult but with this type of toy the hunt may take longer.

Hopefully that same gentleman will have his assortment of frat paddles put out and I will be able to get one. But I hate waiting until July when he will probably show up at the vendor fair of the CM summer party. Meanwhile, I wonder what other obsessions and phases I might go through. And will my wallet be able to take it?
As promised here are the addresses for the toy makers I use. I can vouch for the quality of their work and their customer service. I am a picky customer and if they can please me, they can please anyone.

www.thelondontanners.com (fine leather toys! Say hi to Ian for me!)

www.canes4pain.com (wonderful canes made by Whypdancer. The best!)

www.spanking-paddles.com (makers of paddles from any kind of wood you can imagine; all handmade by Walt.)

There you have it...I urge anyone with an obsession with toys to check out and patronize these fine toy makers.

That's all for now. I am off on the hunt for that elusive frat paddle. This is Cigi signing out saying, as always...play safe and play nice!

Giving Thanks Pt II

I know sometimes real life gets in the way of our wonderful spanking life and that is what has happened to me. I had knee surgery last Thursday (I'm doing fine and everything went well) and even though it was arthroscopic I still had surgery and I still have pain. The fact that my doctor is very easy on the eyes is a plus.

Now, you may be thinking how does the title fit in with what I'm typing? Well, I have the good fortune to have just about the best friend anyone could ask for and she came and spent the last five days with me, helping me out and scolding me when I went against doctor's orders. My dear, sweet, stern friend is none other than Purple Angel, a person most of you know from her blog "spanking delight". I couldn't have had better care if I had had a nurse to care for me.

I don't think the picture would gross you out too much, so here's what my knee looked like on Saturday, when I was allowed to take the bandages off: Very little bleeding or bruising; thanks to my sister and my "private nurse". By the way, those black marks at the top of my knee are my surgeon's initials. They always make sure they mark the correct body part I guess. Anyway, nothing is too much to ask of either of them and I don't think I thank The Man Upstairs for them often enough. It's not enough to tell yourself "my friends and family know I love them". Every now and then they need to hear it, especially when they go above and beyond for you. The only thing that would have made it any nicer would be if I could have stood some spanking; the endorphins would have been nice. lol But we sat around and watched movies (some spanking some not). We watched The Wizard Of Oz and had wonderful memories of the Our Need and Desire party (where we watched this movie on TV while spanking) and we watched It's A Wonderful Life because I don't believe in watching that movie alone, nor do I cry alone during the sentimental, schmaltzy parts.

So I'm going to lie down and rest now...my nurse is calling! :)

That's all for now, Kiddies...this is your slightly high on pain meds blogger, Cigi, saying play nice and play safe!

Giving Thanks

This is the day every year when people eat, watch football and give thanks; pretty much in that order. This includes me, of course. But the last few years I have had so much to be thankful for and I don't "give thanks" nearly as often as I should. Nor do I "give thanks" to Him who deserves it the most.
This year, as every year, I am thankful for one more year of being here with my family and friends. I am thankful that cancer hasn't beaten me yet and still hope for a day when it won't.
I am thankful to my doctors and the nurses who take care of me and my surgeons, etc. But I am also thankful to my scene friends who have been so encouraging and inspirational, making me laugh and cry and just being here for me in so many ways.
So today, before we start passing around the sweet potatoes and the turkey and stuffing, let's take a moment to bow our heads and give thanks to the One who has made everything possible. If, like me, you are feeling just a bit more thankful than on other days, thank the Lord sincerely for everything you have.
That, I promise, will be my one and only sermon of the year. Now, pass me the turkey!
Happy Thanksgiving to all my blog buddies and scene friends! You all mean the world to me.
That's all for now, Kiddies. Play nice and play safe!